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Forgivness – Challenge, Gift, Instrument of Healing
Date: Saturday 9 October 2010
Time: 10.00am – 5.00pm
Cost: Covered by Peace III grant for participants who meet the relevant criteria.
Christy Kenneally is a lecturer, Novelist, Television Scriptwriter and Presenter, Poet and Writer. He has published twelve books and is the author of the best-selling book ‘Life after Loss, Helping the Bereaved,’ and the CD ‘From Heartbreak to Hope.’
He has worked with PIPS, Console, Bethany Groups, Living Links and many other Bereavement Support Groups throughout the island of Ireland. He has also lectured for Reach to Recovery and the American Cancer Society in more than ten countries.
In this seminar the following topics will be explored:
- forgive and Forget can be a knee-jerk mantra from people who want to get back to ‘normal.’ No person and no place can ever go back to normal. That normal no longer exists. We either move on or we stop living, in any worthwhile sense of that word.
- the Myth of ‘Forgive and Forget.’ – Forget is not something we do, it happens to us and usually is the mind’s way of clearing trivia. What isn’t trivia stays and must be dealt with.
- forgetting the important stuff usually translates into putting it in some closed compartment of the mind. It doesn’t go away. It feeds on shadows and demands more energy to keep it down. And then????
- forgiveness can’t be forced or demanded or expected. Who or what is being forgiven? What do I do with my rage? Do I turn it out and add to cyclic violence or turn it in in self-destructive behaviour?
- how can I move on and what sort of ‘I’ do I want to carry with me?
- there must be a grieving for who I was before the hurt. This work must be done before I can commit to a new me; a person who has chosen to be a survivor rather than a victim. That new person takes responsibility for the quality of his/her life and is learning to live as fully as possible.